I know how hard it is - been there often enough but no is necessary if you have any hope of remaining a sane, functioning, rational adult.
Not everyone is entitled to your time and energy. So learn to say no - and mean it.
Just learn to say no. I know how hard it is - been there often enough but no is necessary if you have any hope of remaining a sane, functioning, rational adult. Not everyone is entitled to your time and energy. So learn to say no - and mean it.
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I posted this in 2012 on my FB feed - I'm sure most of your have come across the 'You have memories' function. It resonates tonight. I've been dealt some lousy cards over the years and they still persist in coming. However I've learnt to play a better hand. What used to drive me close to the brink no longer does. Not because it isn't still hurtful or harmful, but because I've learnt to stop and think before reacting. I've chosen to temper my reactions so that my life follows the path I dictate, not the path dictated to me. I can't change what has happened or what will happen, and choosing to live without regret and in the present means I don't want to change any of it - what I can do each day is make sure that my choices are centred in my present regardless of the cards in my hand. Rule the game, don't let the game rule you. An area we all neglect : self-care. Living a mindful life means being mindful of not only our outward selves but also our inner selves. The place we more often than not neglect. Eating the right foods, getting enough sleep, drinking water and fitting in the correct amount of exercise is not enough to keep us going. We all need a go to list that will be our safe haven in times of trouble. A list that reminds us that we matter - inside more than outside. Make your list tonight - I'll be doing mine - my body is telling me I've neglected the self care for too long again. Yes I know it's hard. You don't have to tell me that - you preaching to the converted. Life is never smooth sailing and the last week and in particular the last 3 days have been rough. They are what I'm going to call game changers. The before and after days. But right now is when I need to pull inwards and keep calm. Anger, fear, hurt and all those negatives won't get me through this. Calmness and focusing past the pain will. So I am going create that clear, safe place for myself. Please do it for you to. Are you the optimist who believes the glass is half full, or the pessimist who believes the same glass is half empty. If you are either of those you are still on the wrong page. That glass could be either but it is always refillable. The person responsible to refilling it is you. You are what you choose to see. If you see yourself as half empty or half full then that is what you will remain. Rather see yourself as a work in progress, sometimes a bit low, other times brimming to the point of overflowing but always with the ability to refill with the things that matter. All those small moments of your life which are easy to forget but which in fact matter the most.
In refilling your own cup you have the ability to share with others as well. So keep refilling. |
Love Always
You reach a point of accepting that you made mistakes,
they cost you dearly and that you can't change the past. At that point you stop raging against your history, accept it, and move forward into a calmer, less self destructive frame of mind. Archives
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