S E R E N D I P I T Y
Life is full of these moments - you just need to be open to the magic.
Two years ago I by accident came across Brene Brown's Ted Talk on Vulnerability - that has led to a circle of 9 pillars of strength I have to draw on which I would never have met had I not stumbled onto that talk at nearly midnight one November evening. Through these ladies I am on a path of Creative Healing. Although they are far flung and we are connected only via the web it has also opened up closer relationships for me as I am more willing to let people in to help. Magic working at its best.
In my immediate circle it has led me to form close bonds with people I never expected to even speak to, let alone form relationships with. It has literally opened a door for me to speak and be heard and not to be afraid to love in all its forms. Had you met me 2 years ago you wouldn't recognise the woman I was today. All these good people are because I wasn't looking and had given up. You all know who you are.
Tonight I saw serendipity at work again. I have a 17 going on 27 year old in the house. He knows it all and most of all as far as he is concerned nobody understands what he, as a teenager, is experiences. I cannot possibly understand having grown up in a different era as far as he is concerned. I am always being told how things are now different and they face different challenges... well did that theory get put on its head tonight!!
Wednesday night is our date night, my way of trying to keep in touch. It was to be an at home with pizza and DVD's. Sadly my original DVD selection of La Bamba wouldn't work so said smart teen picked The Breakfast Club. Now I must admit right here I myself have never watched it so I had no preconceived notions or ideas going in but hell was I so glad he picked that movie tonight!!!
This is a movie made in 1985, so 30 years old this year, and it could be made every generation and still be relevant. As the back of the movie says, The Jock, The Brain, The Princess, The Kook and The Criminal. All of them dealing with their own horror stories on the home front, facing pressures of fitting in at school and each in their own way experimenting with sex, drugs and rock 'n roll, as all teenagers always will.
Suddenly my child realised that he isn't alone with all the challenges he has faced and will still face. That 30 years ago kids were dealing with the same issues, that I dealt with them in the 90's when I was a teen and that one day his kids too will deal with the same issues. Maybe with one or 2 curve balls but when you come down to it the core issues are and will remain the same through the ages. I have struggled to find a way to explain this concept to him and for me tonight I found a good way of getting across an important message without really looking for it. It was also a fun, relaxed and informal evening, so not mom lecturing and sounding condescending, and again best of all with no knowledge of the movie he didn't feel like I had trapped him with the selection.
So as you see serendipity works its magic in the most wonderful ways when you least expect it but certainly do need it the most. I needed this tonight as it has been a rough time lately. I don't for one second think it will solve the problems but perhaps, just perhaps, it has sparked something upstairs for him... I can only hope.
As for me I will continue to remain open to the magic of my serendipitous moments. I find them in the books I read, the photographs I take, the conversations I have, the music I listen to and the art I enjoy and create. Each day I become more mindful of my 'self' and my 'soul' and I open up to the magic around me.
Therein lies serendipity for me.