The ties that bind... in the case of motherhood quite literally the umbilical cord that nourishes our unborn child until birth. But that link is really broken and it takes extreme self-care on the part of the mother, of teenage and adult children, to really let go. I struggle with this. I know that about myself and am looking at fostering healthier boundaries so that I remember I too am a person, outside of being a mother, and that means I am entitled to live my life as best I can. That means putting myself first, even when feeling torn.
You reach a point of accepting that you made mistakes,
they cost you dearly and that you can't change the past.
At that point you stop raging against your history,
and move forward
into a calmer, less self destructive frame of mind.