What is a map? According to Wikipedia a map is a visual representation of an area – symbolic depiction highlighting relationships between elements of that space such as objects, regions and themes.
A map also highlights BOUNDARIES. Something which I have lousy at setting in the past. I don't think I've nailed it just yet but I'm certainly improving.
Why do we need boundaries? Why shouldn't we all live together in peace and harmony....
Simple answer ....
It doesn't work! At all. Not ever!
This is one of those "Don't try this at home" moments. Set the boundaries - believe me your mental health will thank you!
This is a huge contradiction for me... in my photography there are no boundaries, no rules. I will push every boundary there is in pursuit of the shot I want. Yes there may be some rules but on the whole if the shot appeals to me then that is what counts. Not whether it is on the Rule of Thirds, if the exposure is correct, the sharpness exact...
We all need boundaries to function at our best in this crazy world we share with another 7 odd billion people. Boundaries are our personal rules allowing us to exercise control over our destinies and control the impact made by others on our lives. Because lets face it, not everyone we come into contact wants to have a positive impact on our lives so we need to be able to use our personal boundaries to protect our own feelings of self worth.
Boundaries are NOT about shutting people out. Boundaries are about keeping yourself safe. You can still be supportive. Be that friend that others lean on. Be a supportive spouse, sibling, colleague, friend that others can rely on. However you will be able to do so safe in the knowledge that if necessary you are able to step back within your own boundaries.
Boundaries teach you to say NO. Boundaries are what make us stronger individuals. Instead of spreading ourselves too thin and not giving of our best, the ability to say no (without guilt), allows us to focus on what is important and necessary to us and turf out what doesn't serve us in a positive healthy way.
I know I still have a lot to learn to get this right. I'm still leaning more towards the "people pleaser" in me BUT I am getting it right in some areas of my life that really do need it. So for now I will focus on that and pat myself on the back when I'm successful and roll with it when I'm not. Nobody is perfect, least of all of me.