A friend does not have to be someone you see physically every day, if ever. You don't even need to speak to them every day either. You will know the true strength of the friendship when you can pick up as if you never left off.
Friendship is precious and it is very sad if we don't have those special people in our lives. It is often said that friends are the family you would have chosen and I believe that. They are the people our souls are drawn to. The things that draw us don't even have to be common ground.
My best friend, Denise, and I have almost not one thing in common. She loves cats, I'm a dog person. She's Catholic, I'm not quite there. She is a strict mom, I'm a walk over. She loves Christmas, I'm yet to get out my tree. There is 13 years between us... almost a generation gap that makes our views on politics, religion, raising kids, men and a whole host of other things vastly different... BUT our souls are connected.... We have both been known to pick up the phone to the other just because we sensed something was amiss. We've had stand up arguments where we've shouted at each other but the next day sure as anything up pops a sms or email just checking in.... The bonds of friendship between us are cemented in our hearts and nothing will break it.... Rarely does a day go by without some form of communication between us. We've laughed together, cried together, holidayed together, sobered up kids together... her nickname is Denny Mushroom and she got mushroom earrings on her birthday from me... her nickname for me is unmentionable but the idea of what could be hanging from my ears had us in laughter for days... and that is what friendship is about. It's not about being the same... it's about finding joy in your differences.
Besides Denise I am blessed to have some other pretty awesome friends in my life. Friends from different corners of my world, photography, work, Facebook... people I can turn to when things are tough and I need support. Or friends I can go out with and share my passions with. People who check in with me to see I'm ok... because they treasure my friendship as much as I treasure theirs. And some of these friends I have never met in the flesh but I love them as much as if I had.
I hope you too have those kinds of friends in your life. True friendship is rare and special. Never deny yourself the chance to make new friends... but treasure and protect those friendships you already have as well. And tell your friends your love them. I love you is not reserved for just family. Love is felt in many different forms and if you love your friends tell them. Life is too short to forget to do that.
While some may come in to your life only for a Reason or a Season there are those precious ones that will stick around for a Lifetime.... count your blessings when you find one of those and treasure that friendship.
Reason, Season, or Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.