FRIENDSHIP AND FURNITURE
At some point in your life you will face the above dilemma with both the f's. Probably at the same time as well.
When we kids we all want to be a part of the 'in crowd' . We all have that BBF and a couple other BF's just for good measure in case the BBF and you fall out over something. These friends see you through all those firsts and are often still around when you get married, together with a couple more friends you've picked up along the way through university or your first couple of jobs and your partner.
At about the same time you enter the phase of collecting furniture and things and it is a manic craze to not only keep up with the Jones' but out strip them at every turn. So you devour decor magazines and restyle your home with each season. This season it is muted tones with hints of earth and deep couches with loads of cushions. Next season it is fresh bold splashes of watermelon and lime on minimalist styled white plastic furniture. Even you start to wonder at times if you in the right house, never mind the rest of the inhabitants! And so this cycle continues through the next few years as you collect kids, and soccer moms and husbands work colleagues wives and hand painted art and unwanted birthday gifts and so on and so on.... not to mention the 1500 Facebook/Instagram/Twitter friends and followers you have added to the load!
Until suddenly one day you stop and look around and find yourself surrounded by mismatched furniture and people you don't know commenting on your family holiday snaps. And you realise you have spent years gathering quantity but you begin to question the quality.
This is where I'm at.
So I am decluttering my home and want to fill it only with pieces that I enjoy and need. I really don't need 5 desks do I? I want to hang pieces of art on my walls that have meaning and also preferably my own photography works. The ornaments I have are the little knickknacks I collect when I travel ... these surround my work space and writing space and have personal meaning to me.
The friendships I am part of have also come under close scrutiny over the last year. Fifteen months spent in therapy teaches a person a lot about themselves. I've learnt to value myself and I have learnt that I have value. I have learnt that setting boundaries will lose me friends but with strength I didn't know I had I have been able to move past it. I have come to understand that as much as I am a giver sometimes I need and deserve to be on the other end.
More than anything I've realised I don't need to be part of an 'in crowd'. The people who are part of my life are there because I want them there and they want to be here with me. I have as a result of this whole process made some of the most amazing friendships - friendships I would never have opened myself up to if I hadn't first understood that I have value.
I have a need for quality now. Friends and furniture which add value to my life. I want to be comfortable not only on the chairs I relax on at the end of the day but in the company of the friends I spend time with, whether in real time or in various online groups I am a part of. I value the peace and tranquillity the quality brings into my life.
Friendship and furniture - remember quality always trumps quantity.