"Ask yourself this QUESTION:
'Will this matter a year from now?'"
~ Richard Carlson
'Will this matter a year from now?'"
~ Richard Carlson
question
ˈkwɛstʃ(ə)n/
noun
noun: question; plural noun: questions
verb: question; 3rd person present: questions; past tense: questioned; past participle:questioned; gerund or present participle: questioning
ˈkwɛstʃ(ə)n/
noun
noun: question; plural noun: questions
- 1.
a sentence worded or expressed so as to elicit information.
a doubt about the truth or validity of something.- the raising of a doubt about or objection to something.
- the raising of a doubt about or objection to something.
- 2.
a matter requiring resolution or discussion.- a matter or concern depending on or involving a specified condition or thing.
- a matter or concern depending on or involving a specified condition or thing.
verb: question; 3rd person present: questions; past tense: questioned; past participle:questioned; gerund or present participle: questioning
- 1.
ask (someone) questions, especially in an official context.
The dilemma lies not in the asking of the question, but rather in the answer that has to be faced.
I had some tough questions today and foremost in my mind is the question - "Will this matter a year from now?".
When you asking just for yourself it can be pretty simple to answer. I had to deal with a difficult client today and while I was tempted to snap back at him I could hear myself asking if it would matter a year from now. Getting myself riled up over his behaviour doesn't serve any purpose other then to open myself up for attack. So the situation was diplomatically dealt with and I've moved on.
There are a few people in my private life that I've learnt to deal with in the same manner and the fact is that the years left to deal with them is diminishing rapidly. In a few years these people will be largely out of my life so I choose only the important battles which need defending. The rest, while it matters, doesn't matter enough for me to have to constantly defend my decisions.
The toughest question today was around my youngest son. The next 18 months are going to be the most critical out of the last 5 years and I need to make some decisions which I know will cause him to hate me. This is truly when the question "Will this matter a year from now?" counts. Because it will. It will matter hugely. I am making decisions which impact on his life and that of the family and while I won't know if it is the 'right' decision I do know my gut is screeching at me and I've paid the price for ignoring that too many times before. Perhaps one day he'll understand and be grateful, I can only hope he does. Perhaps he never does forgive me - that is the risk I may have to be prepared to take.
Tonight I don't have the answers. Perhaps I'll never have all the answers. All I can do is assess what is happening today on the presumption of what tomorrow may bring and hope that through all the muddle I'm still making the best choices I can.
When asking yourself "Will this matter a year from now?" give yourself this gentle reminder when doubts and insecurities knock on the door ~
"I am doing the best I can with what I have in this moment.
And, that is all I can expect from anyone, including myself."
Love Always
I had some tough questions today and foremost in my mind is the question - "Will this matter a year from now?".
When you asking just for yourself it can be pretty simple to answer. I had to deal with a difficult client today and while I was tempted to snap back at him I could hear myself asking if it would matter a year from now. Getting myself riled up over his behaviour doesn't serve any purpose other then to open myself up for attack. So the situation was diplomatically dealt with and I've moved on.
There are a few people in my private life that I've learnt to deal with in the same manner and the fact is that the years left to deal with them is diminishing rapidly. In a few years these people will be largely out of my life so I choose only the important battles which need defending. The rest, while it matters, doesn't matter enough for me to have to constantly defend my decisions.
The toughest question today was around my youngest son. The next 18 months are going to be the most critical out of the last 5 years and I need to make some decisions which I know will cause him to hate me. This is truly when the question "Will this matter a year from now?" counts. Because it will. It will matter hugely. I am making decisions which impact on his life and that of the family and while I won't know if it is the 'right' decision I do know my gut is screeching at me and I've paid the price for ignoring that too many times before. Perhaps one day he'll understand and be grateful, I can only hope he does. Perhaps he never does forgive me - that is the risk I may have to be prepared to take.
Tonight I don't have the answers. Perhaps I'll never have all the answers. All I can do is assess what is happening today on the presumption of what tomorrow may bring and hope that through all the muddle I'm still making the best choices I can.
When asking yourself "Will this matter a year from now?" give yourself this gentle reminder when doubts and insecurities knock on the door ~
"I am doing the best I can with what I have in this moment.
And, that is all I can expect from anyone, including myself."
Love Always